A few years ago, I wrote a story for one of my classes, that I want to share with you, just to give you a little perspective of how I feel about being adopted……enjoy!
“We walk into the small front room of the office where my mother, sister, and I are greeted by the familiar, smiling face of Geri, the Director of the adoption agency. Almost immediately she leads us into another room entirely filled by a closely spaced circle of chairs. We are instructed to sit together on one side of the circle and wait. Two by two, prospective parents enter the room and sit down nervously.
My mom begins by telling the story of why my parents chose to adopt. She explains that she was unable to become pregnant but it was always my parents’ dream to raise a family. After looking into several adoption agency they settled on one they had heard of that specialized in open adoption. They found they liked the program and the principles guiding it. Specifically, they found they liked the idea of an open adoption. Tensions in the room ease as people begin to relate, and I see recognition on their faces as my mom tells our family’s story. Once my mom finishes, there are a few questions, mostly for clarification, and then attention turns to me.
I have no idea where to begin since my mom had already summed up the family story, so I start with what I can remember, the first time I was old enough to understand that I was adopted and what that meant. It is something my parents had told my sister and me since we were young so there would never be a devastating moment later in life. I believe my adoption is something that has made a profound impact on me, and it now defines the person I am. Being in an open adoption means the child, the adoptive parents, and the birth parents are all given the opportunity to have a close and connecting relationship if they so choose. Although I am much closer to my birth father than my birth mother, I still interact with both of them, and that is important to me. For example, I appreciate the valuable time my birth father and I have spent skiing together. I think that I am actually lucky to be adopted because to me it means that I have even more people I know will always love me unconditionally, which is agreat feeling. That is the reason my parents chose an open adoption.
Now comes time for questions. Most questions are directed to my sister and me about how friends and peers treat us. I think the prospective parents’ biggest fear is that kids will be looked at differently and even made fun of in a school environment. Once I tell them that I am not treated any differently than my friends, they usually ask about whether or not I actually tell people I am adopted. I explain that it is a part of who I am and there is no sense in hiding my identity. My adoption is not something I announce to the world, but everyone close to me knows about it, and I am always comfortable explaining it or answering questions about its benefits.
Through this I have learned that I have a unique and loving extended family that has taught me to be inclusive of others. Above all, I have learned to be secure with who I am and proud of my birth family for being so selfless and allowing me to experience fully the life they gave me.”
Adoptions by Heart
4605 S. Yosemite St.
Denver CO. 80237
*Disclaimer – Photos and testimonials may be from both present and previous clients of employment of Geri Glazer and Jeanne Reisig.