Musings about Open Adoption

Musings about Open Adoption

  • To put it in perspective, Moses is the first recorded adoption where a mother selected parents for her child
  • Open adoption is now the most widely practiced form of adoption in the U.S.
  • No Secrets=No Fear
  • No child has ever been hurt by too many people loving them.
  • In open adoption birth and adoptive parents meet one another, share full identifying information, and have direct access to ongoing contact over the years.
  • It is of paramount importance that adopted children know that their birth families cared about them.
  • Research clearly shows the more open an adoption is, the better it is for all members of the adoption triad. Openness in adoption serves the best interests of birthparents, adoptive parents, and adoptees.
  • Adoptees want and need to hear their adoption story, it belongs to them.
  • Mutual respect, appropriate boundaries, and the best interests of the child are the cornerstones of successful open adoption agreements.
  • Open Adoption equals respect for each member of the adoption triad.
  • Fear is of the Unknown. Education and familiarity alleviate fear.
  • Honesty is more common in open adoption as opposed to adoptions veiled in secrecy.
  • Open adoption can solidify the respect, trust, friendship and even love the people involved have for one another.
  • For the adoptee knowledge and information impacts identity, self- esteem, and self- image. No more wondering why do I have curly hair etc. Gives the answers to questions all of us have, who do I look like, where was I born, etc……