Birth Mother FAQs

What is open adoption?

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Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with someone other than the child’s biological parents. When utilizing the process of open adoption the birth parents and adoptive parents meet one another, share complete identifying information, and maintain direct access to continued contact.

How does open adoption work for me and my baby?

When agreeing to an open adoption, you have the right to make all the choices:
-Choose the adoptive family
-Choose the amount of contact, along with the adoptive family,  you will have as the baby grows older
-Choose the person who will be best to offer you support while at the hospital

Will I be responsible for any cost during the adoption process?

None what-so-ever, as women who are pregnant will find that our services are absolutely free. You may even qualify for additional financial assistance for items relating to your pregnancy.   In addition, working with A.B.H.C allows you to receive free, confidential adoption-related counseling and support services.

Can I choose a family for my baby?

Yes, absolutely. When it comes to selecting the ideal family for your baby, we believe that only you can make the best choice. We can help by introducing you to quality families of different backgrounds.  A good place to begin your search will be families who are already waiting to adopt through A.B.H.C.

What if my due date is approaching and I don’t yet have a working plan?

That’s not a problem since there’s still time to put together an adoption plan. If you would like to speak to a counselor, we can assist you in putting together an adoption plan that will meet your needs. If you would like, there are families that are ready to meet with you. It’s not uncommon for us to be contacted by women who want to make an adoption plan immediately after delivering at the hospital.

Can I get financial help  during my pregnancy?

Yes. It’s legal for an adoptive family in Colorado to help pay expenses related to pregnancy. Those expenses can include such things as:
-Medical bills
-Maternity clothes

-Transportation

-Food and rent

-Phone

-Electricity
-Lost wages

Your birthparent counselor will cover the acceptable maternity related expenses with you when she meets with you

What about the baby’s father?

If you so choose, the father of your baby can participate in making an adoption plan with you. We can help you to interpret the adoption laws in Colorado and how they pertain to the baby’s father.

Do I have to tell my parents?

You are legally able to make your own adoption plan if you are pregnant and over the age of 12. However, our counselors are available to help should you desire assistance with the best way to discuss your pregnancy or adoption with family and friends. Remember, you get to make the ultimate decision about who to tell, when to tell, and how to tell those close to you.

What happens after the baby is born?

You will decide how you want your hospital experience to be if you decide to put together a plan for adoption. If it’s your choice, our adoptive families are able to bring the baby directly home from the hospital. Some women find support by an adoptive family while in the hospital, while others choose to have family or friends there. Still other women elect to enjoy some alone time in the hospital with the baby. Feel free to have our counselors help you decide the most comfortable path for you to take.

Do I have to do any paperwork?

Not until you have left the hospital will you sign any paperwork that terminates your rights to the baby. In addition, along with the adoptive family you choose, you have the right to create a plan prior to giving birth. Your adoption plan can include:
-How often you will see the baby after birth
-Whether the adoptive family sends you letters and pictures
-What contact information will be shared
-Who will be at the hospital with you
-Who gets to take the baby home from the hospital
-At A.B.H it’s our belief that you are in charge of your own adoption plan.

What if I haven’t had any prenatal care?

It’s not uncommon for us to work with many women who haven’t yet received prenatal care. You will find our counselors very willing to help you arrange free, confidential healthcare.

What if I have used drugs or alcohol during my pregnancy?

Even if you have used drugs or alcohol you are still able to make an adoption plan. You can get help from our counselors in meeting adoptive families that are comfortable with the process despite a history of drug or alcohol use.

Can I talk with other women who have made an adoption plan?

You most certainly can. In fact, talking with others who have already gone through the adoption process and who had to make similar decisions, can help you in deciding what’s best for you. With the help of our birth parent counselors, you can be introduced to other birth mothers.  You can have another birth mother mentor you throughout this journey.   Please feel free to contact us if you’re interested in meeting other birth parents or attending a birth mother support group.

BIRTHMOTHER PEER SUPPORT

Adoptions by Heart Colorado, LLC. offers birth parent mentoring support for both birth mothers and birth fathers.  To find out more, call or text our Birth Mother Service Coordinator at 720-317-9241.