I FEEL STRONG……………………
Dear Prospective Birthmother, I’ve been there. I know what you’re going through, and I know you will never go through anything harder in your life. You’ve probably been at a point where you wish this situation had never happened and you just want it to go away, but I also know that as hard as your situation might be, you can’t help but feel for that little being rapidly growing inside of you. Maybe you’ve spent countless nights bawling your eyes out, and maybe you feel like the world is against you and you don’t have the support you really need. It might feel like no option is a good option. As hard as it might seem to believe, there is hope and it does get better.
Not too long ago, I ended up unexpectedly pregnant with not many places to turn. I chose to pursue adoption because I wanted to put my baby first and do what I believed was best for him by giving him the family and the life that I couldn’t provide. When I first planned this, I figured my life would be over after the adoption and I would never be happy again. I was only doing it for him, but I loved him enough to do that. I didn’t know how good it could be.
Before I gave birth, I heard people talk about how adoption was an expansion of love. Love from the adoptive family, love from the baby, and love from me. It’s a gift to everyone involved. We were all getting something that we needed in some way, but I didn’t know that I really believed it.
Everything has changed since my adoption story. I have a close relationship with my adoptive family, and not only do I get pictures of my little guy, I get hugs and kisses from him too. Thanks to open adoption, he’s not going to grow up wondering who I am, and I’m not going to wonder what he’s like. I get to be there to tell him that I love him, and that I loved him so much that I got to handpick his family and choose the best life for him. I gave him a chance at life, and gave myself the opportunity to make a better me before trying to start a family of my own.
I feel strong, thanks to my adoption story. I made a little person that I can be so proud of! There were certainly moments where the pain felt like it was almost too much to bear, but one glimpse at that tiny little smile can change everything. It’s clear to me, now, that he was their child all along. He completes their puzzle, and mends their broken hearts. He may have been unplanned, but not unwanted.
I know this decision is the hardest one you’ll ever make. But if you can do this, you can do anything! Whatever you end up choosing, I believe in your future. I know your strength, and I admire you. You’re not alone. I know you can find beauty through your story.
Wishing you strength and love on your journey!
Adoptions by Heart
4605 S. Yosemite St.
Denver CO. 80237
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