Bumps, Hurdles and Miracles
Our story is a long one with many bumps and hurdles, but it has brought us the two most amazing and loving children. During the journey of trying to have a family, we encountered surgeries, procedures, injections and many heart aches, before we decided that having a biological child was not what we really wanted or needed. It was more important to have a family, regardless of how it came to us. It was then that we set our sights on meeting with different adoption agencies. Destiny being the planner that she is, met/spoke to agencies (interstate and intrastate), all tracking them in a nice little spreadsheet format. As a couple, we sat down and looked at the pros and cons of each agency before deciding on “The One” and turning our application into Geri. We took our large stack of papers home and began working on the long list of requirements, being careful to not get overwhelmed by the sheer volume of data and steps needed to pursue adopting a child.
Once all of the paperwork was completed and the photobook was finally ready, the waiting game started. Even though it was only a few short months, it seems like forever, but the call we had so desired to hear came in. “Your book has been selected” will forever be our favorite words. We met the birth mother and her mom the following week, during a match meeting. We loved both of them to pieces and were over joyed after they decided to move forward with us. We were able to go to doctor visits and were even at the hospital during his delivery. He was the most precious baby we had ever seen. Our family came in, from out of town, to share our experience and we were so excited to finally have a family. Unfortunately, 9 weeks after his delivery, we lost this precious child in a court battle, to his birth father. It was the hardest thing we have ever had to face. We loved him as our own and would have done anything for him. Now we had to hand him over to someone who had a drug history, didn’t want anything to do with him until after his birth and didn’t know anything about him. Our world was shattered and not only did we feel like we lost a child, but we also felt like we were losing our birth mother. The agency called a counselor to meet with us and our birth mother, to help process our grief. We also started to wonder, were we not meant to have a family? Is God trying to tell us something? Destiny had the hardest time with the loss, but it only strengthened her desire to have a family and convinced Chris to put our book back into the waiting family pool.
To our surprise, less than one week after losing our little boy, another birth family wanted to meet us. The agency briefed them on our recent loss and told them if, they were not 100% sure of their decision, then we were not the family for them and took great liberties to protect us from another loss. Approximately 6 weeks after meeting this family, our baby girl Brooklynn McKinley Berndt was born. We were not allowed at the hospital, which was extremely hard since we had been at the last delivery, but waited patiently for our daughter to come home. We had some difficulties with our birth family, following her birth, but consulted with the agency and each other to define boundaries, communicate our concerns and worked through issues. Today, we have a great relationship with our birth family and see/talk/text as much as we can.
A couple years later, we decided to try again. Brooklynn was 2 years old and was a very social, loving and outgoing child. We wanted her to have a sibling and our desire to complete our family was very strong. The agency had a waitlist, so we put our names on the list. We used this time to compile our paperwork and start working on another photobook. This time around, we were excited to include pictures of our daughter, so we felt she made our book extra special. All paperwork, including our book, was turned in and less than 2 months later we got the call….”your book has been selected”!
We met the family a few days later and were elated to hear of their strong Christian background and love they all had for this unborn child. The birth mother was in college, adorable and seemed like an extension of our own family, the moment we met her. Brooklynn came to the match meeting and she brought her parents. A couple days later, Geri called to let us know she wanted to move forward with us. The baby was due in less than 6 weeks, so we began to prepare our home and our life for a new little one. A week later, Aidan Kai was born! He was delivered via c-section and was born before his due date, but he was perfect. We asked the family if we could come meet him and were allowed to visit the following day. Two days later, we brought him home! Brooklynn was a big sister, “I be big sister” she kept saying and our family was complete. Since we didn’t have much time, before his delivery, to build a relationship with our birth family, we spent a lot of time the following weeks and months to learn more about them. Our birth mother pumped breast milk for 7 months!! It was the most amazing gift she could have ever given him, especially considering he was a preemie and quite small.
Brooklynn is 4 and will be starting Kindergarten in the fall and Aidan is almost 2. We have the family we always dreamed of and our family is complete!! We continue to stay in touch with our first birth mother, even though we weren’t parenting her child, we still love her deeply and would do anything for her. Brooklynn’s and Aidan’s birth family continue to be a part of our extended family and share in the love we have for these 2 precious angels. Open adoption is the most amazing gift we have ever experienced. Not only do we get to raise these beautiful babies, but we have 3 amazing women in our life who put their children before anyone and anything else – even themselves.
Adoptions by Heart
4605 S. Yosemite St.
Denver CO. 80237
*Disclaimer – Photos and testimonials may be from both present and previous clients of employment of Geri Glazer and Jeanne Reisig.