Adoption Books & Resources

Adoption Books & Resources

logo-smallThe sites selected here are just a small sample of the resources available online. We encourage you to use these resources to help in your research about open adoption. These websites are provided as potential resources; the use of them is completely at your own discretion.• Adoption advertising & linking

• Adoption book & gift sites

• Adoption Forums

• Adoption information websites

• Adoption law
• Infertility

Adoption advertising & linking – can list your site or create a custom designed one page website. They can also register your site with all major search engines. – This useful site contains articles and information on the history of open adoption in the U.S – Adoption Online has been helping families of all kinds connect with birthmothers with great success since 1995. – provides an online link to help drive more traffic to your website. They can create your online “Dear Birthmother” letter or they can provide a link to your existing adoption website. – Mama Bears is an open adoption website where birthparents can meet prospective adoptive families. They can create your online “Dear Birthmother” letter or they can provide a link to your existing adoption website.

Adoption Book & Gift Sites – In 1994, Tapestry Books became the first site to specialize in adoption books. Over ten years later, they are the premiere site to find books about the many issues surrounding adoption. – Creating books which give tribute to the love that inspires the adoption of a child. – This site provides resources to help you create an adoption lifebook for your child, which will help them understand their past as well as thrive in the future. – The one-stop shop for adoption gifts, books, and other unique adoption products. – Unique adoption gifts, books and resources. – A resource of hundreds of poems describing all aspects of the adoption and foster care experience, from poetry written by young people, to classics known and loved by all.

Adoption Forums – Adoption Plan is an active adoption site that offers direct communication with those interested in adoption. There are a number of chat boards including scams, state laws, adoption topics and adoption business. – A useful resource for reading and posting about current adoption scams and unethical behavior.
Adoption information websites – The mission of is to provide

• adoption information, resources and services to birthmothers-to-be, prospective adoptive parents and adoption professionals. The information, resources and services are provided through website pages, adoption forums, boards, email groups and other interactive communication. – This site has served children and families for 11 years, making one of the oldest and most respected adoption web sites on the internet. – is an informational web site for people seeking a basic knowledge of domestic open adoption. – The Center for Adoption Support and Education (C.A.S.E.) is a non-profit organization dedicated to providing support and education to the adoption community. – the online adoption and parenting guide, has provided trusted adoption information and inspiration to families for over 30 years. – A nonprofit organization begun by two adoptive parents in 1991, Pact has developed a national reputation for excellence in serving all members of the adoption triad. Pact’s goal is to create and maintain the internet’s most comprehensive site addressing issues for adopted children of color, offering informative articles on related topics as well as profiles of triad members and their families, links to other internet resources, and a book reference guide with a searchable database.

Adoption Law – Adoption Law Site – The goal of this law site is to deliver a single online resource where prospective adoptive parents, biological parents, adoption and child welfare lawyers, juvenile and family court judges and child advocates of all kinds can turn for child welfare and adoption law information. – Has current information and links to legislation about adoption laws in the U.S., as well as articles written by adoption legal experts. – You may be able to take a tax credit for qualifying expenses paid to adopt an eligible child (including a child with special needs).

Infertility – The mission of RESOLVE is to provide timely, compassionate support and information to people who are experiencing infertility, and to increase awareness of infertility issues through public education and advocacy.


*Unbroken Ties by Jeanne Reisig, MA, Amazon, 2012.  At last a book that dispels the common myths and misconceptions, and reveals the many blessings and benefits of open adoption.  Rich, poignant stories of adoption from courageous birth parents who have made an agonizing life choice for another who had no voice in the decision. Amazing stories from adoptees about the search for their roots, the countless emotional impacts of being adopted and some of what they’ve learned from their lives. (Given to you as part of education with our agency)

Secrets to a Successful Domestic Adoption by Jennifer Pedley, MJ and Birthmother, Health Communications. Inc., 2010.  With passion and candor, Jennifer Pedley shares insights from her own adoption story, from countless other birth mothers as well as the adoptive parents she has helped.  Her insider secrets will help ensure that you embark on a successful adoption journey that expands the hearts of everyone involved.  (Given to you as part of education with our agency)

Adoption: A Handful of Hope by Suzanne Arms. Celestial Arts, Berkeley, CA., 190. This is an updated version of To Love and Let Go. Using case studies, shows how open adoption affects the lives of those it touches, especially birth parents.

Adoption Means Love: Triumph of the Heart
This book is a powerful compilation of stories from people across the country and around the world, who have been personally touched by the miracle of adoption. –

Adoption Without Fear by James Gritter. Corona Publishing Co., San Antonio, Texas, 1989. Seventeen adoptive couples describe their experiences with open adoption. Must reading for anyone touched by adoption, it is particularly helpful for prospective adoptive couples just beginning the process.

 A Letter To Adoptive Parents on Open Adoption by Randolph Severson. House of Tomorrow Productions, Dallas, TX, 1991. A perfect introduction to openness in adoption for prospective adoptive parents.

Children of Open Adoption
Authors: Kathleen Silber and Patricia Martinez Dorner
Two pioneers in the field examine scores of open adoption experiences from infancy to adolescence. Among topics covered: bonding, grief, communication, entitlement, and adoption understanding among children.

Dear Birthmother
Author: Kathleen Silber
This book on open adoption, recommended by the Child Welfare League of America, has been updated to reflect current practices. It provides specific and practical suggestions about beginning and maintaining an open adoption. It also contains actual letters written between adoptive families and birthparents. DEAR BIRTHMOTHER will help you carefully consider the issues involved in adoption.

Life Givers: Framing the Birth Parent Experience in Open Adoption by James L.Gritter. CWLA Press, Washington, DC, 2000. Gritter makes the persuasive case that if the institution of adoption exists to benefit children, then adopted children are best served when birth parents and adoptive parents work together to ensure that the birth parents remain a part of their children’s lives. This book provides an excellent understanding of the birth parents experience in open adoption.

The Open Adoption Experience by Lois Melina and Sharon Kaplan-Roszia. HarperPerennial, 1993.  A complete guide for both birth families and adoptive families. Covers many topics, including a readiness for open adoption and growing up in an open adoption. Is also a handy reference as your child grows.

 The Spirit of Open Adoption by James L.Gritter. CWLA Press, Washington C, 1997. James Gritter guides the reader along a spiritual journey that explores the candor, commitment, community, and cooperation that define successful open adoptions. A definite must-read for anyone contemplating open adoption.

The Open Adoption Book
Author: Bruce M. Rappaport, Ph.D.
In an open adoption, both the birthparents and adoptive parents are actively involved in all phases of the process. Interweaving personal stories with answers to the questions most frequently asked about the process, this informative book is designed to help all parties overcome the anxieties often associated with adoption.


 Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution is Transforming America by Adam Pertman. Basic Books, 2000. Adoption Nation is essential reading for anyone thinking of adopting a child, for every member of the adoption triad, and for all the professionals and policy makers who affect the institution and everyone within it. A powerful book to say the least.

Inside Transracial Adoption
Authors: Gail Steinberg and Beth Hall
Strength-based, culture sensitizing parenting strategies for inter-country or domestic adoptive families that don’t “match.”

Making Room in Our Hearts: Keeping Family Ties through Open Adoption
Author: Micky Duxbury
This is an effective and invaluable resource for those considering open adoption, those experiencing it, and professionals in the field. Openness has altered the landscape of adoption, and “Making Room in Our Hearts” will help us catch up to the reality that is open adoption today.

Making Sense of Adoption by Lois Melina. Harper and Row, NY, NY, 1989. This book describes each stage of development and recommends age-appropriate activities to reinforce the concepts discussed. A valuable resource.

Open Adoption Experience
Author: Lois Ruskai Melina and Sharon Kaplan Roszia
Two leading adoption experts provide this reassuring guide to the issues and concerns of adoptive and birth families through all stages of the open adoption relationship, from making the decision through the child’s growing years. A must-read for anyone involved in or considering an open adoption, including adoptive and birthparents.

Real Parents, Real Children: Parenting the Adopted Child by Holly Van Gulden. This book goes beyond when to tell children they are adopted with practical advice for parents on how to talk with their children about open adoption.

Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother
Author: Jana Wolff
This is an engaging and readable book about an open, trans-racial adoption. The Author writes frankly about all the taboo thoughts many adoptive parents have regarding open as well as trans-racial adoption. Heartbreakingly honest, this book will make you both cry and laugh aloud.

The Kid
Author: Dan Savage
This book written by sex advice columnist, Dan Savage, tells the story of he and his now husband’s adoption of their son. This book really explains open adoption, but it is gritty as the birthparents are street kids with tough lives. This is a well-written book. Dan Savage is very funny, but he also makes a compelling case for open adoption. PLEASE NOTE: there is obscene language throughout the book.


Adoption Stories for Young Children by Randall B. Hicks. Wordslinger Press, 1995. This book offers reaffirmation that adoption is a natural and loving way of becoming a family.

 A Mother for Choco by Keiko Kasza. Putnam, NY, NY. A baby bird, Choco, looks for his mother. Choco finds Mrs. Bear, and while she may not look like him, both Chaco and Mrs. Bear come to realize that her love for him makes her the perfect mother for him.

 Did My First Mother Love Me? A Story for an Adopted Child by Kathryn Ann Miller. Morning Glory Press, 1994. A wonderful story for every adopted child who wonders about his/her birth parents.

 It’s Time to Let You Know by Beth Riedler. Global Relationship Centers, Inc., 1999. This book is about a birth mother’s love for her child.

 Lucy’s Feet by Stephanie Stein. Perspective Press, 1992. Lucy doesn’t know where her big feet come from. All the other members of her family have small feet and she would like to have small feet too. A cute book on acknowledging differences and celebrating similarities.

 My Special Family: A Children’s Book About Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber and Debra Marks Parelskin. Open Adoption Press, 1993. This book helps children develop a healthy attitude about themselves and the adoption experience.

 Never Never Never Will She Stop Loving You by Jolene Durrant, 1998. This book is a true story of a young woman called Annie, who cared for her unborn child and gave him up for adoption only because it was best for him.


Birthmother’s Book of Memories by Brenda Romanchik. R-Squared Press, Royal Oak, Michigan, 1994. This fill-in the blanks journal is a perfect way for a birthmother to give her birth child the information that every adopted child wants to know. Sections for family history, the pregnancy and the reasons for choosing adoption. Plenty of room for pictures as well.

 Dear Birthmother by Kathleen Silber and Phylis Speedlin. Corona Publishing Co., 1998. This is a very moving and powerful book about the birth mother experience. Every birth mother and potential adoptive parent should read his book.

 Life Givers: Framing The Birthparent Experience in Open Adoption by James L.Gritter. See listing in BOOKS ABOUT OPEN ADOPTION section.

 Out of the Shadows: Birthfathers’ Stories by Mary Martin Mason. O.J. Howard Publishing, Edina, Minnesota, 1995. Through powerful stories and photos, this book examines the invisible population of birthfathers, men who become fathers but may never get to hear their child call them “Daddy.”

Saying Goodbye To a Baby: The Birthparent’s Guide to Loss and Grief in Adoption by Patricia Roles. CWLA, Washington, DC, 1989. This book is written for adoption professionals and will help providers and others help birth parents with the loss of a child through adoption.

 The Spirit of Open Adoption by James L.Gritter. CWLA Press, Washington C, 1997. James Gritter guides the reader along a spiritual journey that explores the candor, commitment, community, and cooperation that define successful open adoptions. A definite must-read for anyone contemplating open adoption.

The Third Choice: A Woman’s Guide to Placing a Child for Adoption
Authors: Leslie Foge and Gail Mosconi
A wonderful tool for women seeking support during a difficult time. –

Saying Goodbye To a Baby: The Birthparent’s Guide to Loss and Grief in Adoption by Patricia Roles. CWLA, Washington, DC, 1989. This book is written for adoption professionals and will help providers and others help birth parents with the loss of a child through adoption.


Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, founded in 1996, is a national not-for-profjt organization devoted to improving adoption policy and practice. The Adoption Institute is a reliable, unbiased and respected voice for ethical adoption practices that respect all people touched by adoption.

Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute
525 Broadway, 6th Floor
New York, NY 10016


E-mail – [email protected] .

American Adoption Congress (AAC) advocates for adoption reform. This organization offers support and services to all members of the triad. They also provide annual conferences including many well-known experts in the field of adoption.

American Adoption Congress
PO Box 42730 Washington, DC 20015
Phone #202-483-3399

National Adoption Information Clearinghouse offers fact sheets and pamphlets mostly free of charge on a wide variety of adoption topics.

 Information and support for people in all stages of the adoption process promoting healthy open adoption relationships.

 American Association of Open Adoption Agencies was founded to promote fully open adoption.

 The Center for Family Connections – founded by Joyce Maguire Pavao, Author of The Family of Adoption.

 Tapestry: The Adoption Book Catalog

This is the largest national magazine for adoptive families.

An internet e-magazine.